TRIGGER WARNING: This post discusses sexual abuse, which may be distressing, disturbing or triggering for some, therefore we advice you to consider before continuing.
The past years have helped to shed light on the global crisis faced by a shocking number of individuals. Sexual abuse. The #MeToo and #TimesUp movements have aided in bringing this topic into mainstream conversations. However, sexual abuse is still an extremely taboo subject and those who survive it, are often maligned, blamed and shamed.
Sexual abuse is abusive sexual contact by one person upon another. It may range from molestation to rape. Research shows that sexual abuse affects all types of people, irrespective of gender, race, religion, nationality or creed. Though I understand that this topic may be distressing to discuss, it is important to inform yourself.
Research conducted by the National Sexual Violence Research Center, states that one in five women and one in 71 men experience rape in their lifetimes. While one in four girls and one in six boys experience sexual abuse before the age of 18. Despite these horrifying figures, it is estimated that only about 37% of adult sexual assaults are reported, while only 12% of child sexual abuse cases are reported to authorities. Furthermore, in many cases of sexual assault – in regard to adults and children – the perpetrator is known to the victim.
Consent
What is consent? Consent in the context of sexual contact refers to giving permission, to the desires of another. Consent is not an implied concept, but rather informed, ongoing, specific enthusiastic and freely given. Simply because you are in a relationship and consented previously, does not mean that you automatically consent to all future sexual contact. Neither does it mean that you cannot change your mind. Furthermore, consent can only be given by individuals who have reached the age of consent (the age of consent differs between countries and states). Understanding about consent is vitally important for all parties involved.
Mental Health and Sexual Abuse
Often victims and survivors of sexual abuse may suffer from mental health concerns, such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Depression, Anxiety, Eating Disorders, Addictions and Personality Disorders. Additionally, they may experience other difficulties such as learning how to trust, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, self-harm and anger issues. Often these concerns are a result of the trauma they have experienced in their past. It does not mean that a survivor is weak, or broken if they are struggling with any of these concerns, it simply means that they may need some help.
