Family Counselling

Familial relationships bring immense joy, but can also be the source of strife and conflict. Think of a family unit as the human body. Each individual represents a different system or organ; the circulatory system, the skeleton, or the brain. If all systems are working optimally the human body functions well. However, if one system is having difficulty, or a few of the systems aren’t working together properly, the entire body suffers. Thus, the goal of family therapy is to help the family function as a cohesive unit.

Each family’s internal dynamic is unique and must be handled respectfully. In family therapy sessions, the therapist does not take sides during an argument, but rather helps facilitate conversations and conflict resolution. Family therapy can be very beneficial because having a neutral party involved can help to prevent a family member feeling ganged up on.

Many families who live together are comprised of several generations, which may lead to many different points of view or conflict about who is the ‘head of the family’. For example, if there are three generations living in the same house – grandparents, parents and children who are grown – each generation may feel that their point of view is the only reasonable one. Poor communication can lead to conflict. Being able to navigate challenges, arguments and differing beliefs and values allow the family to function much better.

Initially, the therapist will meet with each family member independently in order to understand the interpersonal relationships, and any concerns each individual is experiencing. Following this, group sessions take place, where the therapist establishes ground rules to be followed in session. This is done to reduce the likelihood to family members getting into heated arguments in session. These rules cover the way in which family members talk to each other, when it is the next person’s chance to speak, etc. This allows for productive discussions, with large groups of people. Using open communication, each grievance is tackled. Family members are encouraged to learn how to take responsibility for their actions and change negative behaviours, as well as how to lend their support to their loved ones.

Common Concerns